Whilst I was studying for an Anatomy test just now, I cracked a joke to myself about wanting to study someone’s anatomy. Concentration-wise, it was all down hill from there.
What first started the derailment was that during most studious note-taking on my part, I read about blood vessels “penetrating.” My mind instantly flashed to the gutter (not in a boner joke type of way, but in a curious yet kinda turned on sort of way.)
Thus, here I am, channeling my good sexual energy into a column. When you’re feeling a little frisky there is this lovely, buzzing, energy rush. One is really bright- eyed, bushy tailed and alert.
A lot of times, the buzzword is orgasm and it seems to hog the spotlight. But harnessing the sexual buildup leading up seems like a goldmine waiting to be realized.
Now, like anything, being turned on is a spectrum. Feeling a little frisky and being so turned on that you cannot focus in class are different things, and where that threshold is exactly cannot be known and everyone is different.
The first step is to be conscious of and open to the possibility of harnessing that energy. Then it is practice stemming from trial and error.
One application for harnessing this energy is in the budding stages of romance. Taking your time in a relationship on a college campus can seem kind of silly, but there are perks to consider.
Besides having time to get to know a partner and build trust and respect, the buildup can be incredible.
After I explained this column to a friend, she looked at me and said, “Oh, absolutely! I always say you have to savor the path. Sex gets better the more you have it, but you’ll never get that feeling of the initial excitement from doing things for the first time.”
The most important thing is to do what feels natural, and sometimes taking it intentionally slow can give the relationship some room to breathe. That way, when something hot happens, the stomach-butterfly-panty-ping sensation is intensified.
Without crossing into manipulation, good-intentioned teasing falls into the category of using that energy.
The skin is sometimes said to be the most important erogenous zone. Stroking a shoulder, putting a hand on a knee, et cetera can foster an almost electric attraction that would be a shame to miss.
This seems pretty obvious to me and probably is to you, too. However, one thing that comes to mind is that porn omits all that great physical contact that lies in the subtleties outside of straight bumpin’ uglies.
Sure there may be foreplay, but that buildup from intimate moments is undermined in favor of usually exaggerated orgasms.
That said, orgasm jumps out to me as as a helpful paradigm for why that sexual energy is so important. In the most succinct terms I can come up with, it is merely the release of a sexual buildup. It’s all about the foreplay, especially when it comes to how women orgasm.
Realistically, I will probably never be able to harness my sexual energy and sit down and write a ten page paper. But thinking about that sexual energy and letting it empower and inspire is something that I think has a lot of potential. Suzy says start practicing now and get down with your bad self!
