OH YEAH F**K ME LIKE A DIRTY LITTLE SLUT YOU BITCH.
Ahem. Excuse me. Let’s take a step back and ease our way into this one. Dirty talk.
Dirty talk is a simple act that can really spice up a bedroom. Now, don’t be intimidated by my introduction. Dirty talk can mean anything from non-verbal vocalizations to intense dom/sub role play. And nobody is expecting you to scream and shout like Jenna Jameson your first go.
So for those who are new to dirty talk, the first thing you should do is talk with your partner about what each of you is interested in and comfortable with. A good way to work your way into dirty talk is to begin with non-verbal communication. Once you start letting moans slip from between your lips, talking to your partner directly will become much easier.
If you really want to start speaking to your partner directly, an easy way to transition into this is by simply telling them when something feels good! This can be something tame like, “Yes” and; “That feels nice.” But if you want to get dirtier, just start adding details! “I love the way your fingers feel inside of me” is a hell of a lot dirtier than, “That’s nice.”
Another simple way to initiate dirty talk is by asking questions. Once again, fewer details will lead to tamer dirty talk. “Does that feel good?” is much tamer than “Do you like it when I bite your nipples like that?”
A final trick that you can implement is to simply make observations. You can start by telling them how gorgeous they are, before working your way up to complimenting their thick, hard cock.
Lovers often explore the really filthy side of dirty talk. This is when the talk gets very explicit, aggressive and even violent. If you are planning on getting to this level of dirty talk, it’s of absolute importance to communicate beforehand what types of words your partner is comfortable with.
Even after laying down ground rules, it’s a very good idea to decide on a “safe word” to be used if things get a little too intense. Sex is a passionate act. Even if you think beforehand that you’re okay with being called a slut, in the heat of the moment, that word might bring up some negative feelings that you didn’t even know were there. It’s moments like these that safewords are of upmost importance.
So you and your partner just finished knockin’ boots, finally using some of that really nasty dirty talk. You collapse next to your partner overwhelmed with sexual ecstasy. You might think that your job is done, right? Wrong. Aftercare is just as important as your preparation for new territory. Make sure to reassure your partner that you were playing a role, that you don’t actually think that they are a [insert expletive here]. Tell them that you care about them, respect them, and trust them enough to explore this new sexual territory.
So there you are, folks. Remember to be confident with your dirtytalk, remember to be respectful and, most of all, remember to communicate. After all, dirty or not, words mean a lot.v